Here I go, thinkin' again =p.
I just want everyone to know that tonight I feel very college-esque. I'm sitting on the couch in my suite, blogging, while watching "The Silence of the Lambs". Yeah, be jealous.
Today I've been thinking about lots of things. Most of all though, I have been considereing responsibility and dependance. Yes, I realize those are two different subjects but I have been exposed to two things today that have made me thinnk of these things.
Let's look at responsibility first. Dictionary.com defines it as "a particular burden of obligation upon one who is responsible". With that said, wouldn't I be correct in saying that a baby, for example, is something that one would refer to as responsible? I sure think so. Ok, well I know someone who just had a baby, and I am very happy for that person. Babies are a wonderful blessing and joy to behold. The miracle of life is so incredible that it really can't be put into words. I am in awe every time I see a newborn. But that isn't the point of my ramblings. What I was getting at is having a baby when you are READY, or rather RESPONSIBLE enough to have one. The person I know who just had a baby is still very much an immature person. She is the kind of person that can't look any deeper than say her boyfriend at the time or the "issues" they might be having.
In a nutshell, this guy and her had sex and she got pregnant when she was 18. This could lead into so many segways on topics that I feel very strongly about, but I am going to try my darndest to stay on just the one topic of responsibility. Teenage pregnancy is really something that I detest, and I think it stems from the lack of responsibitly in young men and woman. A responsible person would know that sex and intimacy comes with a very hefty price (which is one of the reasons I am saving myself, not necesarily until marriage, but until I find a committed relationship that I know means something). It may seem that these two love each other because they have a child together, but GET THIS!!! He wasn't even AT the hospital at the time. It was the same day as his birthday and he decided that hanging out with friends rather than his "girlfriend" and their brand new daughter. How ridiculous is that?
It may not seem like this to you, but take it from someone who knows this girl, she wasn't ready. She is still very young in her mindset and that interferes with her capacity to be an adult. I guess my main conclusion for this one is that I don't agree with teen pregnancy whatsoever, and that I think it could all be avoided if people wouldn't act on primal instincts to procreate.
Now for something that I am all too familiar with: dependance.
When I think of dependance, I think of the need for something to be present on, not necesarily a day to day basis, but on a frequent basis. I've found that I've become dependant on those who have shown me an act of compassion, no matter how small it is. But, the level of dependance depends on the level of compassion.
However, what I want to explore, at least specifically, those people that you see that are so needing of a relationship, it's almost sad.
I know someone who was dating a friend of mine, and the relationship went sour very quick. It went sour because she wanted him every minute of every day, and if he was gone for longer than ten minutes (say, and I'm not joking, the time span it takes to go to the bathroom) she would assume he was talking to other girls and that he was going to be making arrangements to see another girl when he was "done" with her. It was almost sad to watch her already frail confidence be shattered.
I know that most issues people have with other people is due to a lack of confidence, but I feel like this is an extreme.
What I don't understand, and what I kind of want to explore as a train-of-thought kind of process, is how this girl can be so torn up over being broken up with my friend, but then be with a guy that she possibly has just met, and is already being labeled as a "great guy". I wish I could just understand why people look down on themselves and can't be comfortable.
A message from me to anyone who decides to read this. You are beautiful. You are unique. You can be anything you want to be. Please don't subject yourself to the tortue of being so reliant on other people that you lose sight of who you are. I learned that lesson both a long time ago, and not too long ago. I learned when I was in high school when I destroyed the walls of my insecurities around my heart. I also learned not long ago that you can't rely on anyone but yourself. I know that sounds bleak, but when it really comes down to it, who can you trust better than yourself? You always know what you want, you always know what you need, even if you aren't willing to accept it right away.
My main conclusions for this post is that, responsibility is very importtant and can lead to a more real, and cognitive life. I think that it is one of the biggest things in a successful life, and especially in appropriate decision making. Also, dependance is ok, but just like anything, it is only appropriate in moderation. I think that it's fine to rely on others and to want others to be in your life, for I feel that no one can develop without exposure to other people. But, when it comes to meaningful relationships, someone you are in such need of that they can't be themselves, and you can't either, that's when it becomes unhealthy.
That's all I have for now.
Be well,
~Ge-Off~
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